Those who agree with this kind of relationship have mainly taken the feminist angle and have simply given examples of popular males that have been in a relationship with way younger women, take for example the 12 year difference between Prince Charles and the late Princess Diana, and that if it is a male that is dating a younger woman it is socially acceptable. So what is the Big Deal? . If really given the chance or choice would many women actually opt for the older man or vice-versa? Sadly there isnt a great track record of age gap relationships i e Nicole Scherzinger,33 and Lewis Hamilton,26 , Demi Moore,49 and Aston Kutcher , 33 or Prince Charles and Princess Diana and now J.Lo and Casper..... or should we say that she is going through a mid-life crisis??
So it's clear that social acceptance is not the only thing one has to worry about when entering a big age gap relationship, From the Old man Viagra woes to the party animal behaviour of a 20 yr old...the history facts surrounding big age gap relationships have clearly shown that toy boy relationships almost never work and so does marrying a sugar daddy. so What's my Verdict?
You know I always speak from experience right ? So I have to say honestly dating a younger guy/girl should just be for fun, for the purposes of a fling . I say this because I can almost always guarantee that you are at different stages of thinking and planning in your lives, so really you cannot build a platform with no mutual goals. I have also personally dated an older guy who was about 5 years older than me when I was 18, the problem was I did not feel I could challenge him because he was older than me, so there was an automatic submissive behaviour. If you are not able to express your true feelings to your partner you are lying to them and anything built on a lie is bound to fall.
I have to say though 5-8 years is not a bad age gap, it works if both people in the relationship are in the same age band like for example i'm 22 his 27. However at the risk of sounding sexist I am sorry to say but the male has to always be older , He is designed to be the head of the family and someone both me and my kids should look up too. I cannot take a man I see as one of my children seriously, plus we all know males mature at a way slower rate than women "Just Saying".
Everyone has to be in a relationship that allows a friendship to be built for there to be pure honesty and respect of each other's thoughts or opinions, and for there to be a friendship you have to be in the same age group.
I would personally want a toy boy that I can control loool
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ReplyDeleteBack in the day, the human race didn't celebrate birthdays. We started celebrating birthdays to highlight the 'forever young' culprits because of this 'age aint nun but a number' nonsense . Rich Kidz have a song by that title, and the funnny thing is they recognise that the woman is older, only to proceed to call her 'baby' ....em ££$%^$%! what!, respect your elders! lol
On a more serious note though this topic is very broad and there are many ways to think of it. Our reasoning on this topic is heavily based on society and how majority sees it and the laws in our land that govern us. PERSONALLY, almost immediately because of my upbringing and own experiences i will agree that dating someone younger than me as a female is something i would NOT so keenly consider.This is because in my subconscious i want to be accepted and respected in society and majority of them condemn such an act, also, i would like to be at peace within myself knowing that i don't have to consantly update my ipod to stay intune with my toyboy, or start penciling in lunch botox shots in my diary considering we live in a society that has a 'heavy duty stamp' on 'image is everything' that has even resulted in young children who injure themselves offered plastic surgery under the NHS to prevent very visible scarring. Adding onto this, i believe you are as young as you feel and look sometimes. Like i mentioned earlier, in ancient times people didnt celebrate birthdays. History says that birthday celebrations started in Europe where it was believed that evil spirits where attracted to people more on their birthday and to protect them friends and relatives would visit to bring good thoughts and wishes. ancient romans held hedonsitic parties and this was seen as a pagan way of life which is why all early religions from early christians, islam, hindus, you name it, celebrations of birthdays was condemned under most if not all religions. so this means that everyone was organised back in the day, when you come of age , you get set up for marriage, simples. Anciently there was no way a woman would not be married by a certain age because of the biological clock. colonization and mordenisation from our western friends taught us to celebrate birthdays and we started incooperating our cultures into the celebration and marking certain mile stones as important and all that. this began the highlighting of aging and society started setting up expectations for each age.
enuf history tho,,,
point is , without identifying birthdays we would only depend on mental age similarities in whoever u were attracted to. even though i wouldnt pray for it to be my portion, i believe older women can find happiness in younger people, i guess its all based on personal calculation of ones maturity over how young is too young or how old is too old. To see someone dating someone any age below theirs be it -1 yr diff TO -35 yr diff etc clearly says they feel that that the way that person thinks and sees life is identical to theirs and vice versa. However, i DO condemn dating an adolescent if you are not one yourself. These individuals are experiencing dynamic changes within that they even cant control at times lol (a period of legal insanity)and thats why they have their own category. but then again , this labelled milestone was labelled by SOCIETY, so who is to say a 13 year old couldnt be equal to a 40 yr old? Do we not see young apprentice?Iits mind boggling, end of the day majority rules and exerts pressure onto what we all end up believing in and teaching our young ones one day *sigh*
WOW Miss Melody you can speak?? *surprised face* I think really there is too much "flack" for Caroline flack, her life her bizzness. Personally I don't mind dating a Guy who is the same age or a year or two younger. Its coincidence I meet older guys really.
ReplyDeletePersonally I think age got nutin to do wit a relationship workin or not workin. If two people knw who they are and what they want in this life you can make it work regardless of the age gap. I for one would love to gash bout my babe coz he is way too mature for his age. I mean hee got his moments jus lyk everyone but regardless he is a man. One I can definitely look up to.
ReplyDeleteErm first off, if you resort to dating a younger bwoy that can only mean one thing and that is you are not capable of attracting someone your own age. toy boys are for one purpose a little sex and that is it....!! forget being emotionally attached. if you have 3 babies better add one more because in actual reality you have 4!!#thatisall
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